Today’s blog challenge topic #2 is “Forgiveness and Reconciliation”. I chose this topic because I think a lot of us struggle with this issue, especially the forgiveness part. Sometimes it can be a difficult thing, to forgive, especially if the issue around it is especially painful or difficult. One thing that a lot of people don’t realize is that the forgiveness part isn’t about that person, it’s about you; I wrote blog post about the importance of forgiveness awhile back.
First know there is a difference between forgiveness and acceptance. Forgiveness brings you more to that place of healing, recognizing that the person who hurt you is human and may not have hurt you intentionally, and not letting that pain control your life. Acceptance is just saying, well, they hurt me but there’s nothing I can do about it, so I’ll just put it to the back of my mind for the sake of getting along. The only problem with that is that there’s usually this undercurrent of resentment that tends to get in the way of the relationship and it can eventually become so great that the relationship ends up falling apart.
Ending a relationship isn’t always a bad thing, but when it’s a relationship that’s important to you, that end can cause you even more pain. If it’s already reached that point, don’t give up hope that it will stay that way. Reconciliation can still be possible, if you want it to be. But the first step you need to take to reconciling is that forgiveness thing – yeah, that again. If you can bring that forgiveness part in and truly heal from the prior situation, then there’s a chance to come back together with that person and have a meaningful relationship again. But be sure you have taken that important step, otherwise things will just end up falling apart again.